Sentimental About It All

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I’m a sentimental person and I value my family above all. A few years ago, when Maggie was 14 months(!), I had the opportunity to take a road trip back to North Dakota with my extended family in celebration of my grandparent’s 60th wedding anniversary. Without a doubt in my mind, it was one of the greatest trips of my life. That isn’t to say that there weren’t logistical issues, puke, or even fights. There were all of those things. There was even The Most Disgusting Hotel in the Universe, and I still count it as one of the many blessings in my life. 

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Barry and I often talk about things that we’re doing well, things we could improve on and things that we are really doing awful at. These conversations are a good way to keep us on track of our goal to have a happy, healthy and loving marriage/family. Traveling has long been on our list of the trying to improve, and having babies and working has eaten up these past few years. In doing my recent post about 2013, we realized that even though this year felt like we didn’t do much (aside from becoming a family of five (Sydney counts!!!)), we did plenty. Harrison, Disneyland, San Franscisco, Montana, and Fake Camping were all little pockets of our year that expanded us and our horizons. 

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As I took Sydney for a walk today, I found myself thinking back to the summer that started off with a road trip to North Dakota. The more I thought about it, the more it made me thankful for those two weeks. Not only did Maggie get time with everybody, I did as well. I got to ride in the back of my grandpa’s car as we drove around the town he and my Grandma grew up in and listen to him point out different landmarks. He had so many anecdotes and stories that wouldn’t have meant as much had I heard them in any other capacity. We went to the town museum where distant relatives’ photos hung on the wall, my great grandparents’ addresses were easily found in the old directory, and my grandpa discovered a piece of furniture that he’d made as a 15 year old. We got to spend the day at the lake house where my Grandma grew up, exploring the property, walking the land. 

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We all proudly stood on the steps of the high school that my grandparents graduated from, sporting shirts announcing our support. My uncle flew in and surprised my aunt, a gesture that touched all of us. Barry and Genevieve were sorely missed, but all the grandkids were there and really committed to celebrating 60 years of marriage in the small town that was home to my grandparents before coming to the PNW. It was a lesson in my family history, taught in the most hands-on way. (Which also made me think about my trips to Scotland/Ireland with Midge, but that’s another post for a different day….but same feeling of gratitude) Families don’t get to do this type of thing with any sense of regularity and I’m well aware of how unique that trip was. Today I was trying to put it into perspective by imagining Maggie as a mother to her first child and going on a road trip with Audrey, my brothers/spouses/children, my parents, Barry and me. I simply can not wrap my brain around it, but I sincerely hope that it happens. Decades down the road. 

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We decided a few weeks ago that we’re not going to have a formal birthday party for Audrey in the way that we have for Maggie. Instead, we’re choosing to go on a trip to Harrison to celebrate her first year. Traditionally, Barry and I don’t exchange gifts for our birthdays, we try to go somewhere instead. We’ve decided to start this tradition with the girls as well, (don’t worry, they’ll get gifts too) and what a better time to start than right now. This year my parents, brothers and Genevieve will be joining us and just tonight as we were corralling the girls, Barry turned to me and told me how excited he is for the trip. I couldn’t have agreed more. 

Parental Comfort

On the last day of our NoDak trip, the day that was our longest driving day by far, both Maggie and my dad got sick. It wasn’t pretty and nobody really enjoyed it, but we got through it.  Before we realized that Maggie was going to be a bit of a puke-bucket, I banished my dad from my car because I didn’t want him to pass whatever he had on to Maggie. Of course, a few hours later she decided to puke out whatever was in her stomach all over the backseat. It wasn’t very traumatic because after she puked, she was all smiles and giggles. I blame the sprouts from The Montana Club, but that’s another story.

Since my dad was shunned from our car, the only other option was to hunker down in the back seat of my grandparent’s car and hope to ride out his sickness because the other two cars were already in other states. Seeing his bobbing little head in the back seat peeking out of the window with a blanket pulled to his chin made him seem like a little kid all over again. Truthfully, I feel like I got a pretty clear snapshot of him as a kid and my grandparents as parents to their sick kid in the back seat. My grandma worried while my grandpa’s lead foot helped get them closer to home.

Being sick is plain awful no matter which way you cut it. I know that when I’m sick just hearing the voices of my parents makes me feel better, even if they’re just telling me to get some rest and drink lots of fluids.  I also know that when Maggie feels badly, I’m the one that she wants and I’m the one to make her feel better. More often than not she just wants to be held and I’m more than happy to wrap my arms around her. Strangely, as our caravan moved closer to home at the end of our journey, I couldn’t help but wonder if my dad found the same comfort in having his own parents near by. Do we ever really grow up?

 

The Elvrums Invade Sweetwater

On our last day in NoDak we went out to the farm where my grandma grew up, which is right on Sweetwater Lake….home to a million and a half HUGE mosquitoes. We survived the bugs, enjoyed a ride in a boat/8-Wheeler and had a wonderful meal. The house that my grandma grew up in is still standing, but no longer used and a new house is on the property and used by some of my dad’s cousins from time to time. The last time I was there was in 1989 and I mostly remember it being very windy.

My dad’s cousin, Mary and her husband, Jack, live nearby and were able to host us at the farm. They were such gracious hosts and I was a bit sad not to join the rest of the family the next day at their house to see Jack’s farming operation, but it was time for us to head back to the PNW. What follows are the photos that I snapped out at the farm, none of which include the little red house that my grandma grew up in or the mosquitoes.

I also have to say that I saw my brothers, Chaya, and dad take off on a 4-Wheeler down a trail and then suddenly they were floating in the lake, I was shocked.  I thought to myself that OF COURSE my brothers would try to take an 8 wheeler in the water, then I discovered that is exactly what it is for.  I felt a tiny bit bad for thinking my brothers would break something….then I got over it.

Enjoy the pictures.

If you make it to the end, there may or may not be one Maggie looking ultra cheesy in her anti-mosquito jumpsuit and her Webster School fresh forehead bruise.