Are You Taking Care of Your Golf Balls?

I haven’t hidden the fact that I’m struggling with my lack of time or the feeling of unbalance in my life. I love work, but I could live there and still not be caught up. I love being a mother, but I could spend every second of every day being intentional with my mothering and still not feel adequate. I love being a wife, but I could go on 99 dates in a row and still not feel like I’ve had enough one-on-one time with him. I love being a friend, but I could call, e-mail, drink coffee, go on walks and still not have been able to see/hear those important to me.
The time in my day is no different from everybody else’s, but here I am feeling like I’m no quite doing enough. There isn’t an area that I feel like I’m kicking ass in. And I like to kick ass. My friend Charlyn, after reading a blog post a while back, forwarded me an e-mail that seemed to make a ton of sense. In fact, it made me cry. Below is the text and I hope that we can all find our golf balls and hold on dearly to them, because the sand doesn’t really matter.

The Mayonnaise Jar and Two Cups of Coffee

When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else–the small stuff. “If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

2 Replies to “Are You Taking Care of Your Golf Balls?”

  1. Thanks for that Hannah. I dont have kids but I feel the same way. I am forwarding this to my staff now if you dont mind. We all need this reminder! Thank you! Miss you!

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